Many of our readers have been sending countless questions to us wanting to know if there are other things that can hurt their sex life apart from bad addictive habits and some common illnesses that have been mentioned on this platform.
Do you know that being mere can hurt a couple’s sex life? As simple as being over excited may look or appear, when married couples are not very mindful of this act, they are unknowingly destroying their sex bed. I am sure many of our readers may think this is not so. But do you know that sometimes, when men are overexcited about having sex, they totally forget about the needs of their wives. And what happens is that, during sex, the husband clumsily squeezes the wife’s breast.
The point is that during intercourse, the wife is not warmed up and therefore does not enjoy sex as much as the husband. This action hurts couple’s sex life and before you know it, the unsatisfied partner is either not showing interest any more or looking for sex elsewhere. So, husbands, go down on your wife like you mean it! If you want her to enjoy sex, then you neted to enjoy performing oral sex on her. Just like nothing is sexier to many husbands than wives giving them a blow job, nothing is sexier to many wives than a husband who enjoys giving oral pleasure. Documentation shows that only about 25 to 30 per cent of married women orgasm or reach climax through sex and most of these women need and likely want clitoral stimulation in addition to sex. I tell men that when you are through, still go down on your wife. You will be surprised to see another side of her, try it tonight. When you roll over after sex and tell her, ‘sorry dear, it’s just too hot, or I am so tired from office work, or don’t worry, next time I will make out time, then you keep a foot of distance between you and her. Maybe you chat with her a bit before falling asleep. She is noticeable annoyed and it will backfire sooner or later. Even if you are not someone who likes to touch after sex, you just must learn how to. You can start off small and make some kind of physical contact a normal part of your after-sex routine. Scratch her back for a little while and lay a little closer than normal. Once you have scratched her back for a while, move to a closer touch. Cuddling after sex will bring the two of you closer together. One of the most successful marriage relationships has been linked to bonds created after sex and cuddling. According to research, the way you approach your partner after sex is really important to how you approach your relationship in general. When you and your wife barely experience spark after sex, it could hurt your sex life.
Another thing that can hurt couple’s sex life is when they fail to identify their own specific style of sexual satisfaction. Please note that not every style, every fantasy, every erotic manual works for every couple. Each couple must recognise and enhance what works best for their sex life. Failure to do this will either put your partner in a state of pretence, compromising, tricks, fabrications and lies or loss of interest in sex. Many married couples are under the false mirage that every other couple seem to be climaxing and having orgasms all the time from whatever type of sex they’re having. Well, when you are fed with such diet by watching porn stars and when your real life doesn’t match, you think maybe something is wrong with you or your spouse.
Real-life sex can almost never measure up to the passion portrayed on the screen, such people don’t talk about the fact that it’s likely that in an odd position, you’ll pass gas or the love of your life will take you in his arms and have bad breath. Sex in the real world isn’t perfect and it doesn’t always end with an earth-shattering climax. But it doesn’t have to end up with a graveyard experience either. Good sex doesn’t necessarily have to be about an orgasm. It can just be an emotionally fulfilling experience between committed couple, who have discovered their unique style and taste, and are most comfortable with such. Couples also need to understand that even when everything else in the relationship is working, sexual styles aren’t always compatible. Most wives like long foreplay sessions. Most husbands are ready to go in an instant. Some partners long for wet, sensual kisses. While others prefer dry, chaste pecks. Sex may not just be naturally perfect. There is the energy of a new relationship of the couple or distance spouse that everything about such sex is very passionate and highly erotic; talk about the excitement, the eagerness but it has its negative side which is that most times, spouses bump noses or knees or you are just very clumsy about some stuff because you just haven’t learned how to dance together yet.
But even long-term couples can struggle in the bedroom also. Though we can easily tell our partner what underwear we’d like him or her to wear, or what we’d like to cook together for dinner, but these same long time couples tend to get tongue-tied when it comes to the topic of sex and maybe some new ideas. Couples sometimes tend to be very sensitive when it comes to talking about sex. They’re afraid of hurting their partner’s feelings, so they don’t tell them what they like or don’t like. But you’re not going to get it unless you ask for it.
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