In marriage, just like every other human relationship, offence is inevitable. This is because no two persons are the same in character and nature. Because several marriages have crashed due to irreconcilable differences, Our Reporter asked some Nigerians which offence their spouses could commit that they would not forgive them:
It’s adultery
Sam Opeyemi
One of the unforgivable things my spouse could do to me is if she commits adultery. It is a sin and I hate it with passion. If my spouse commits it, then she should know that that is the end of our relationship. I believe that God does not forgive people who commit adultery. Most women do it because they are not contented with what they have. Despite the fact that their spouses are meeting their needs, they are still not satisfied.
The unforgivable thing is infidelity
Aito Blessing
Well, that unforgivable thing to me is infidelity. For instance, if my husband sleeps with another lady and gets her pregnant, I won’t do anything to the lady, but he will have to leave the house or I leave the house for him because he has already betrayed my trust and broken the marriage vows that we recited during our wedding.
Lack of communication
Akinboboye Oluwakolade
Well, it’s just one thing and that is lack of communication. When partners don’t communicate with each other, they won’t know each other’s likes and dislikes. But if they do communicate well, it would make them discover themselves well. When partners talk more with each other, the probability of cheating is quite low because partners cheat when they feel their partners lack what they want and they are afraid of telling them to improve.
When he’s pretending to be who he is not
Akinsola Wumi
Maybe if he lies to me about things or pretends to be someone he is not. I may not be able to forgive that. For example, before we married, if he told me he was working somewhere but I later found out that he was not working there or maybe he says he is going for a business trip, only for me to find out that he goes to stay with a lady somewhere. Or he is having an affair with my sister. All these are unforgivable.
If she tries to kill me
Odogbe Timothy
If she tries to take my life, that’s the unforgivable thing my spouse could do to me. Because for someone to try to take my life, it will be very painful. I read recently of a woman who paid assassins to kill her husband, but she was caught. Such a woman is so desperate for doing that. No matter what her husband must have done, she should not have thought of that as the best option.
If he impregnates another woman
Adetunji Victoria
If he impregnates another woman, I will feel disappointed in him. I wouldn’t love being with a man who has another child for someone else. It can be so painful. I will have to let him go and move on with my life. But if I catch him cheating on me, I can still forgive him as I may see that as a mistake. But getting another woman impregnated, that I cannot bear.
I dislike infidelity
Tene John
The unforgivable thing my spouse could do is if she’s involved in infidelity. The man is created for one woman and likewise the woman for one man. That’s why during the recitation of the marriage vows, we said we would be faithful to each other. As a Christian, the Bible also disapproves of infidelity.
There’s nothing I can’t forgive
Oloro Gbemisola
There is nothing my spouse could do to me that I cannot forgive. Not forgiving could lead to divorce and since we would not want that, we might have to harbour the grudges for a while. But I will definitely forgive him later on. There is no offence one should not be able to forgive one’s spouse.
There is nothing that can’t be forgiven
Oladokun Kola
There is nothing I cannot forgive. To me, I will take my spouse as my younger sister so that no matter what she does to me, it wouldn’t pain me much. There is nothing she could do to me that will make me have any problem with her because she should be treated with care. There is nothing that can’t be forgiven at all. Offences between spouses have no limit, but despite all, love is forgiving.
Sharing our matrimonial bed with another woman
Kehinde Bashir
The most unforgivable thing my spouse could do is sharing my matrimonial bed with another woman. I’m sure no woman would like her husband to be sleeping with someone else on their matrimonial bed. Apart from infidelity, there are some attitudes that put me off in a man, such as drinking alcohol and smoking. I wouldn’t want my husband to be involved in those things.
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