Evaluate your relationship

A new year often calls for some introspection and mind searching especially in your private life. This year, evaluate your relationship to know if its time to call it quits or not

Distance

If your lover doesn’t respond like he or she did in the past, you may end up feeling unappreciated. If you’re also the only one planning outings, most of which your partner fails to honour, you always have to initiate texts and calls because they aren’t going to either. Distance is usually a pretty clear sign that your lover doesn’t care the way he or she once did.

Stress

Being with your significant other should alleviate your stress level and not add to it. Are you constantly staying up late wondering what your partner is up to? Are you always cash-trapped, yet, your significant other seems to spend without a care? Do you suspect your partner is cheating? If your goals don’t align with your partner’’s anymore, that’s okay; what’s not okay is trying to keep up a relationship that’s heading in two different directions.

When ‘we’ becomes ‘me’

Has your partner made a decision without even considering you or your feelings? Suddenly date night is canceled and work is more of a priority than you are. Or he decides to hang out with his friends all weekend and completely ignores you. Things come up in life, but, if this becomes a pattern, understand there is something else taking priority in your lover’s life and it’s not you. In other words, when your significant other begins to act single, run!

There’s no time for each other

Are you constantly trying to get your significant other to hang out with you only to be told he or she is just too busy? If your partner is always making excuses and pretending that their schedule is jampacked, maybe they just aren’t that into you anymore. Why would you want to spend your life with someone who doesn’t appreciate you or want to spend almost all of his or her time with you? Life is too short for that.

You never mention the future

If you and your loved one never talk about anything that may happen more than a month into the future, then you may be avoiding it because you can’t imagine being with your significant other for much longer. Whether you’re the one feeling this way, or you’re noticing that your partner feels this way, it’s just a sign to call it quit. If you can’t picture the future together, there’s no point in staying in the present.

You’re feeling increasingly depressed

Depression is no joke. If you’re feeling sad or alone most of the time you’re around your partner, it may be time to call it quit. Don’t take our word for it. Seek professional help before it festers and becomes something worse. No relationship is worth this.

They’ve been having one too many girls’ or guys’ nights

That time with the pals won’t kill your connection, but it will when your partner hangs out with their friends in a bid to avoid you. So, how can you tell when your loved one’s night out means trouble? Ask about their evening when they come home. Does your partner look into your eyes when they tell the story? Or are they looking down and making up the story as they go? Either way, dishonesty can be ready immediately.

Your significant other constantly threatens to end it

No matter the argument or fight, if you disagree with your partner and they respond threatening you with a breakup, it’s time to go. Run for the door and don’t fall into this trap. If they want you in their life they will chase after you. You should never have to beg! Ever!

There’s a lack of communication

You end up feeling frustrated, angry, and hurt whenever you try to talk them. They don’t answer your calls like they used to, or call you as often. If your lover. always took your call and suddenly you’re listening to voicemail way more than you ever have, face it and don’t leave a message. There is a complete disconnect and no resolution; take it for what it is, you deserve to be happy.

You fight constantly

A spat of words in a relationship is a great way to vent and can actually be healthy; after all, it shows you both still care about each other. If you get to a point, however, when you can no longer resolve the issues and just fight all the time, you need to think about how you want to continue. If you find you both still have the desire to sort things out, you could be in with a chance of reviving your relationship. If there’s no want, then unfortunately, there’s no relationship.